We’ve all winced watching hopefuls crash and burn on reality TV dating shows. But before you risk joining the same fate, take note: James Preece (The Dating Guru) and Alexander Ziff, founder of the Ciao Dating app, say there are clear signs someone is romantically interested in you. Spot these five cues, and you’ll have a much better chance of narrowing down the field and finding Mr Right.
1. Closing the gap
Everyone has their personal space, but if someone is interested, they’ll try to get closer. That might mean placing a hand on your arm, leaning in, or subtly moving their chair nearer. If you respond positively, things could progress quickly.
2. Rapid blinking and other physical tells
Excitement and prolonged eye contact can dry out the eyes, so rapid blinking is often a sign they like you. Other giveaways include:
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Fidgeting or restless movements
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Dilated pupils
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Blushing
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Leaning toward you when you speak
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Finding excuses to touch you or subtle lip-licking
3. Talking too much (and teasing you)
Men who are interested often try to talk about themselves — not because they’re ignoring you, but because they want to impress. Teasing and playful banter are also common ways of showing attraction.
4. Noticing little changes
If they comment on a new hairstyle, a different outfit, or subtle changes in your appearance, it’s a good sign. People who aren’t interested rarely pick up on these details.
5. Playing hard to get
Some people intentionally act distant early on. They might delay texting back or avoid making you feel “special” to appear in-demand. Don’t overinterpret this behaviour — it’s often just part of the dating dance.
Recognising these signs can help you see who’s genuinely interested and avoid wasting time on the wrong people. Keep an eye out, trust your instincts, and enjoy the process!
